As Your Therapist, I Will Not Help You Lose Weight

Let’s get one thing out of the way: I will not help you lose weight.

If that’s a goal you bring into therapy with me, I’m going to pause with you. Not because I don’t care about your health—but because I care deeply about it.

So many women in the U.S. grow up learning that their bodies are problems to be fixed. From a very young age, we’re taught to see our worth through the lens of our appearance. It's everywhere—media, family, friend groups, even doctor’s offices. Body image struggles are incredibly common, and it makes total sense that these concerns often show up in therapy.

But here's the thing: your body is not the issue. The messages you’ve been given about your body are.

Let’s talk about BMI for a second. You’ve probably heard it used as a measure of health. What you may not know is that the Body Mass Index was never meant to be a diagnostic tool. It’s outdated, overly simplistic, and—frankly—biased. It doesn’t account for muscle mass, bone density, genetics, or cultural variations in body shape and size. Yet it's still used to make assumptions about people’s health and worth, which can cause real harm.

And when it comes to dieting? Here's what we know: diets don’t work—at least not long-term. Restricting food might give short-term results, but it often leads to disordered eating, stress, and a loss of connection to what your body actually needs. Deprivation doesn’t support health—it creates stress. Our brains and bodies need food to function, to focus, to regulate emotions, and to feel safe.

If you're looking to make changes to how you eat or nourish yourself, I highly recommend working with a nutritionist or dietitian—someone trained to help you meet your body’s needs without shame or restriction.

In therapy with me, we’ll take a different path.

💛 I believe in Health at Every Size—that people can pursue health without shrinking their bodies.💛 I believe in body neutrality—that your body doesn’t have to be something you love every day, but you can learn to respect and care for it.💛 I believe in food neutrality—that no food is inherently “good” or “bad,” and that guilt has no place on your plate.

We’ll explore your relationship with food, movement, and your body. We’ll talk about how to eat mindfully, how to tune in to hunger and fullness, and how to care for yourself from a place of compassion—not punishment.

You deserve to live in a body that feels like home—not a project.

So no, I won’t help you lose weight. But I will help you heal.

About Me: I’m a therapist who specializes in trauma work, and I use approaches like EMDR, CBT, and ACT to help clients reconnect with their bodies and themselves. I believe therapy should feel safe, collaborative, and rooted in self-compassion—not shame. I work with adults of all genders, with a special focus on people who are used to caring for everyone else and are ready to start caring for themselves.